“ST. FRANCES OF ROME CHURCH MARRIAGE” Guidelines For The Sacrament Of Matrimony
Welcome to Saint Frances of Rome Church Marriage Preparation Program. We rejoice with you as you begin the preparations for the celebration of your lives together. From the outset, we assure you of our prayers and support. Your wedding is meant to be a happy and meaningful celebration, one that you will long remember. Your wedding day marks the beginning of this commitment that you will make through the Christian sacrament of marriage.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24
Therefore, we offer these guidelines and instructions to help facilitate your preparation for your life-long commitment of love and fidelity to each other as a married couple, as well as the celebration of the wedding day itself. We encourage you to read it together and to note any questions you may have so that when you meet with the priest or deacon who will officiate at the wedding and the Wedding Coordinator, your talk may be fruitful. “Who may be married at St. Frances of Rome Church?”One person must be a registered, participating member of Saint Frances of Rome Church for six months.
“Who may officiate?” The Priests assigned at St. Frances of Rome Church and other Catholic clergy may officiate at the marriage of those who celebrate their liturgy here.
The priest or deacon who officiates is responsible for preparing the couple for marriage. This includes selecting a Preparation Program, paper work, and the planning of the liturgy.
“Six Months Preparation” Marriage is an important Sacrament. A sufficient period is given to its preparation. Like most Catholic dioceses, the Diocese of San Bernardino requires couples to contact the parish church at least six months before the marriage. The following is part of that preparation.
You are encouraged to contact your priest and begin formal marriage preparation as soon as you make a decision to marry. As a minimum requirement you must contact the priest and begin your preparation at least six months before the proposed wedding date.
This is not intended as a “Waiting Period” but rather one of preparation. Therefore the process of such preparation should begin at the first meeting with the priest. Concern with the immediate preparation for the wedding itself can make it difficult for the couple to benefit fully from the preparation itself. Thus it is highly desirable for the couple to complete all the steps of preparation at least two months before the wedding date.
The following is part of the preparation
PMI/FOCCUS” During the preparation period, the Priest or Deacon helping the couple will provide what is called the Pre-Marital Inventory and/or PMI/FOCCUS. Each of these programs aids the couple examining mutual feelings and expectations marriage. Through these programs, the couple develops a mature and solid relationship necessary for marriage.It is to be noted that the priest helping the couple may determine there is a question regarding the couple’s readiness for marriage. He may refer the couple to a professional for evaluation and assessment.
Persons under the age of 19 who wish to marry will be asked to receive individual evaluative counseling before the marriage can be arranged.
Besides the PMI/FOCCUS Program, the couple attends the following Preparation Program:
Reserving St. Frances of Rome Church
Please contact the parish secretary at (951) 674-6881, x 228 to arrange your wedding date. Stipend fees are as follows:
“Dates & Times”
Wedding ceremonies are scheduled on first and fourth Saturday’s of the month at 12:00 P.M. or 2:00 P.M. Due to the variety of parish activities, scheduling at other times on Saturdays is not possible.
Church Wedding Coordinator
A church wedding coordinator will contact you to arrange a meeting one-month prior to your wedding. At that meeting the logistics of the ceremony will be decided. At that time the balance of the church fee should have been paid at the parish office. The coordinator will attend your rehearsal and will be present at the wedding.
Rehearsal date is arranged between you and the Wedding Coordinator. The allotted time for rehearsal is one and a half hour. Date and time will be determined by wedding coordinator and wedding party. It will not be extended beyond the scheduled time so the wedding party must be on time for the rehearsal. The Wedding Coordinator has been instructed to wait 15 minutes. (Please note: the Wedding Coordinator serves his/her ministry on a voluntary basis).
“Wedding Day” You have the use of the church for one and a half hour. This includes photographs. In order for the Wedding liturgy to begin promptly, the couple should arrive in plenty of time before the ceremony: thirty minutes for the groom and ushers, and thirty minutes for the bride and attendants. You should realize that a late start of the liturgy might require shortening or even elimination of certain parts of the ceremony or Photographs.
The 1:00 P.M. Wedding Party and photographers must vacate the church by 2:30 P.M., at the latest and no pictures will be allowed after 2:30 P.M.
We, as Catholics must respect our Church and wear properly in the ceremony. We are requesting NOT TO WEAR the following as we approach the Altar of the Lord:
PLEASE DO NOT WEAR:
The Rite of the Roman Catholic Church is used at St. Frances of Rome Church. According to Catholic theology, the bride and groom administer to each other the Sacrament of Matrimony. The priest or deacon is the witness of the Church to this sacramental action.
In planning their wedding, the couple has the opportunity of selecting those prayers, scripture readings, blessings and cultural practices that express their desire for God in their lives and the support of the community.
To aid in this planning, we use the booklet, Together for Life by Joseph M. Champlin (The Wedding Coordinator will make it available to the couple.)
The couple must choose one or two people from among their friends and family to proclaim the Word of God at their wedding. Because of the importance of the proclamation of the Word, we strongly recommend that only commissioned lectors be invited to read. A commissioned lector is one who exercises or has exercised this ministry in a Catholic parish. If the couple does not know anyone who is commissioned lector, the parish can provide one. Or, if the couple chooses not to follow the above recommendation, the following must be observed:
You will be given the option of choosing the following three (3) symbolisms within your wedding ceremony, namely:
“Postures” In the Roman Catholic wedding liturgy, the postures used are those found in any other liturgy of the Church: standing, sitting, and kneeling. At the rehearsal, you and the wedding entourage will be instructed which postures are appropriate for which parts of the liturgy. All these will be followed.
Postures or gestures other than those which are part of the liturgy are not an option.
“Music” Please keep in mind that all music chosen needs to be appropriate for a sacred liturgy. Some love songs, while beautiful to listen to, may be more appropriate at the reception than at the wedding itself. A general guideline is that any sung music (by cantor, soloist, or choir) should be religious in nature.
Recorded or taped music should never be used within your wedding liturgy to replace the cantor, the choir, the organist or other instrumentalists.
At St. Frances of Rome Church, choir groups and musicians are available to play and sing for weddings. For a reasonable stipend, arrangements can be made through the choir director.
Visiting vocalists (e.g., friends of the bride and groom) are allowed to add one (1) solo (of sacred nature only) at Gift Preparation or at Communion.
A separate rehearsal with the organist is required. Note: If you would like other choir, please notify Annette Betts, before you make arrangements
St. Frances of Rome Church Choir:
Annette K. Betts, Music Director of St. Frances of Rome, (951) 263-3615[/p]
“Flowers” St. Frances of Rome Church utilizes the services of a florist for the decoration of the altar for Sunday Masses. It is recommended that you use this florist because is familiar with Church regulations for flower arrangements. You may contact Carmen Lazaro at (951) 566-5608. Or Annette Vargas at (951) 579-0062.
If you wish to choose another florist, please notify the wedding coordinator of the florist chosen and mailing address. The Wedding Coordinator will forward to your florist a policy letter indicating requirements to be met.
It is the responsibility of the wedding party to see that any items placed in the aisles are removed after the ceremony
“Rice etc.” Birdseed, confetti, Rose petals, bubbles, aisle runner, etc. create a safety hazard. There is a clause in our insurance policy prohibiting such items. We ask couples to inform your guests that none of these be thrown in, around or in front of the church.
There is no designated parking provided for the wedding. The bridal party can park anywhere at the parish parking lot.
“Bride’s Room” Space is available just off the church vestibule. The Wedding Coordinator will assist you in this matter.
“Photo/Videos” Great care must be taken to insure that nothing interferes with this sacred event. Please review with the photographer(s) or videographer(s) the information given below.
Instructions for Photographers/Videographers
The event you are about to record is a sacred one. We seek your cooperation to ensure such an atmosphere during the ceremony. So that you may be well-informed about the wedding policy of this parish, we have listed below the general regulations for all weddings at St. Frances of Rome Church. We ask that these regulations be respected and followed accordingly. Thank you!
Sacrament of Reconciliation: The Sacrament of Reconciliation is held every Saturday from 8:30 to 9:45 A.M. You must plan to have your confession heard at least two (2) weeks prior to your wedding day. No appointments please.
Baptismal Certificate or Proof, Freedom to Marry, Pre-Cana Conference, Engaged Encounter, PMI/FOCCUS.
You must give the above Marriage Preparation materials to the priest or deacon who will officiate at your wedding. After your first meeting with him, you will know what direction your preparations will take. You must spend time together reading the many prayers and scripture readings found in “Together for Life” booklet from which you will make choices for your wedding liturgy. Two months before the date of your wedding ceremony, you must get together with the priest or deacon to make the final selections. You must call the Organist and cantor or choir director at least 2 ½ months in advance of the wedding date to make all musical arrangements. The Church Wedding Coordinator will meet with you one month prior to your wedding. The coordinator will assist them with all logistical details and will be present at the rehearsal as well as at the Wedding.
Wedding Coordinators, Ricardo & Imelda Serrato 951-258-7035 & Deacon Trini & Isabel Guadarrama 951-674-6881 x225
Leslie Aceves, Parish Office General Secretary, (951)674-6881x 223
St. Frances of Rome Church Choir Directors:
Annette K. Betts, Music Director of St. Frances of Rome, (951) 263-3615